About They F*** You Up

Do your relationships tend to follow the same destructive pattern? Do you feel trapped by your family’s expectations of you? Does your life seem overwhelmingly governed by jealousy or competitiveness or lack of confidence? In They F*** You Up, Oliver James shows that it is the way we are cared for in the first six years of our lives that has a crucial effect on who we are and how we behave. Nurture, in effect, shapes our very nature. James combines the latest scientific research with fascinating interviews to show that understanding your past is the first step to controlling your present.

Reviews

"If every parent were forced to read it before raising a child, it would do greater good for the happiness and prosperity of this country than any number of government initiatives" - Alain de Botton

"A revelatory guide to family relations" - Financial Times

"With fascinating case studies from Prince Charles to Jeffrey Archer, this accessible book explains how our childhood experiences dramatically shape our lives" - Daily Mail